Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.: Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder

Book Synopsis: Winner of four national book awards! Praised by a "Who's Who" of preeminent experts! This bestselling guide put Adult ADHD and Relationships on the map — and remains a must read today. Adults with ADHD, their partners and other loved ones, and professionals will find comprehensive understanding of symptoms, emotional impact, and evidence-based treatment strategies.

"I recommend it highly to all couples whose troubles seem incomprehensible, and for all couples therapists it should be required reading to help them distinguish between ordinary conflict and the roller coaster effect of this syndrome." —Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.
"Insightful, helpful, witty, and very practical. This book can change your life." —Daniel Amen, MD
"There is no better book that addresses such relationship difficulties and with such sensitivity to the complex issues inherent in them. Thank you, Gina, for writing such a useful book." —Russell A. Barkley, PhD
"Gina Pera has written a stunning book that should be a must-read for all couples where one or both partners have Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder." —Anthony Rostain, MD

About this Groundbreaking Book:

Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD? has helped thousands of readers understand how this highly variable syndrome affects them. Around the globe, professionals and couples who have elevated their lives with the book's wisdom recommend it to others.

Gina Pera expertly guides you in making sense of your own Adult ADHD Roller Coaster—helping you to:

• View ADHD as a variable syndrome affecting individuals
• Realize how later-in-life diagnosis creates additional issues
• Revise old misinterpretations that can thwart progress now
• Heal poor coping responses and dysfunctional interaction cycles
• Implement supports to completing routine tasks and reaching goals
• Appreciate how ADHD can also negatively affect the spouses and other loved ones
• Delve into "denial's" dual nature — physiological and psychological — and reach through it
• Adopt proven approaches that remain extremely rare in clinical settings, especially couple therapy

The science has been clear since 1994, when Adult ADHD was declared a medical diagnosis. Still, the public harbors misconceptions, and that means millions suffer needlessly. That includes millions of couples who can't understand why their lives together are so hard—often despite many attempts at therapy.

The simple truth is: Everyone knows someone with adult ADHD. Yet we often misattribute the symptoms to anxiety, depression, or even laziness, selfishness, “addictive personality,” or moodiness. Some assume that ADHD means little boys with ants in their pants. In fact, childhood hyperactivity goes "underground" as the person matures, resulting in a mentally restless state.

Meticulously researched and written by Gina Pera, Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD? helps you recognize the behaviors where you least expect them with:

• Explanations from highly respected experts
• Plenty of real-life details
• Empathy and compassion for everyone affected by Adult ADHD
• Clear advice on proven treatment options and practical solutions

The revolutionary message is one of hope for millions of people—and a joyous opportunity for a better life.

About the Author

Gina Pera is an internationally respected author, speaker, and educator on Adult ADHD, especially as it affects relationships. For 22 years, she has researched and written about Adult ADHD while also passionately advocating for better treatment standards.

She wrote two highly praised books and the first-ever chapter on couple-therapy in the leading ADHD clinical guide (edited by Russell Barkley, PhD). Since 2008, she's reported major original stories at her award-winning blog (the first and longest-running website on Adult ADHD): ADHDRollerCoaster.org

Her first book, Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD?, broke new ground and won four book awards. It has been translated into Turkish and Spanish.

Her second book (with psychologist Arthur Robin) is Adult ADHD